Romantic conquest remains one of humanity’s great mysteries, especially in the age of Tinder, polyamory, and open relationships.
But one thing never changes: the chemistry between two people (the word itself says it all, chemistry) is still pure science.
The American website ‘Business Insider’ has compiled several recent scientific studies on attraction between men and women, resulting in a list of ten very interesting tips.
What can you do to be a more attractive guy? Relax, we don’t want to transform you into a different person, just help you enhance all the qualities you already possess.
Take note. Not everything about love and sex is science, but perhaps this will help you bring out the best in yourself.
1. Show maturity
Women like older men. It’s what some experts call the George Clooney effect: women are more attracted to older men when they achieve financial independence.
Other studies link it to power: if they perceive a higher standard of living (an expensive car, a luxurious house), their level of attraction will also be higher.
2. Be nice
This result is related to both physical appearance and personality. When 100 people were shown pictures of men and women, they confessed that they found those with kind features more attractive.
This is called the halo effect: a single characteristic is enough for someone to form a complete picture of you.
In any case, what’s clear is that people like you if you’re a nice person.
3. Grow a beard (several days’ worth)
This conclusion doesn’t surprise us either. If a woman is given a choice between several men based solely on their shaving habits and facial hair, she’s most likely to choose the one with a thick, several-day-old beard.
4. Work your body (but not too much)
An anthropological remnant from our hunter-gatherer days? Or perhaps it has more to do with fertility and evolution?
Women prefer muscular men for short-term relationships and toned men for long-term ones.
5. Enhance your sense of humor
It’s not just a cliché: if you make the person you like laugh, your connection will likely flourish.
This is more relevant for women than for men; men tend to place more importance on their own ability (or lack thereof) to use their sense of humor.
6. Talk about your feelings
An Australian study based on speed dating yielded a curious result: men who demonstrate emotional intelligence, who can easily accept and talk about their feelings, are more attractive.
Perhaps it’s mindfulness.
7. It smells good
It’s obvious, isn’t it? Your fragrance and body odor can awaken even hidden instincts in the person you like, and using strong perfumes and deodorants will make you more attractive and confident.
8. Mind your body language
Being expressive and showing confidence in your body language is also an advantage when it comes to flirting.
According to a study based on dating profile pictures, women prefer expansive postures, such as opening your arms or reaching for something.
So, you know what to do: don’t cross your arms.
9. Be positive and confident
If you cultivate your positive, confident, assertive side and take pride in your accomplishments, you’ll score major points.
Who wants to date a green bean?
10. Show solidarity
Another conclusion drawn from research on dating platforms: one of the characteristics that both men and women most appreciate in short-term and long-term relationships is that you do volunteer work.
11. Wear bright colors
According to a 2010 study with participants from different countries, they prefer you to wear red.
12. Get yourself a pet
It’s a trait that humanizes even men perceived as the toughest. Perhaps pets bring out the best in you, your tender side and your love for nature.
13. Learn to play the guitar
Did you think singing ‘Wonderwall’ while playing the guitar was outdated? Well, you’re right, it’s not trendy anymore, but women do like it when you play a musical instrument.
The appeal of the romantic, bohemian artist?
14. Practice extreme sports
Be careful, we don’t want any unpleasant surprises! If extreme sports are your thing, boost your hobbies to win over the person you like.
15. Show off your scars
One last piece of advice. Did you think no one cared about that scar on your chin from when you fell off your bike? Tell them the story.