How Can I Learn to Flirt?
That was a question I asked myself when I was just 13 years old.
What I didn’t know was that discovering the intricacies of seduction would lead me to become a more ambitious, motivated, and passionate person.
Wanting to flirt took me from not wanting to see a book even in a painting, to ending up devouring hundreds of them.
This sparked a strong interest in personal development that not only helped me learn how to seduce, but also transformed me from a poor student into someone who earned several degrees and started my own business.
As the renowned writer Napoleon Hill pointed out, the need to be liked by others has been one of the main sources of motivation for the wealthiest and most successful men. And that’s how it was for me at first.
What Will You Find in This Guide?
Throughout this guide, I will explain the key points that, with a little dedication and effort, will help you connect with people naturally.
This is based on the social skills I have developed myself over more than 20 years, using techniques that have been tested on hundreds of students in my work as a social skills coach.
Furthermore, we will learn through real-life conversation examples, such as the one we will analyze below, taken from my book, Awaken Beauty.
This will help you find inspiration for your own achievements.
Example Conversation
“You’re making it very difficult for me to consummate this kiss that I’m dying to give you,” I say very close to her while taking the opportunity to grab her by the waist.
“I like you a lot, you’re very funny but… I’m a lesbian,” she blurts out, rejecting my repeated attempts to kiss her.
First Tip: Handle Rejection with Playfulness
When we are rejected, we will analyze objections and excuses. We’ll try to distinguish between genuine reasons and simple, unimportant reluctance.
Always maintain a playful or even sexual attitude that allows us to connect through the excitement of the moment. Downplay rejection and start seeing it as a fun challenge to face, which will undoubtedly dispel our fears surrounding it.
Let’s look at an example:
I see a hidden, mischievous smile in her eyes. Is she a lesbian or not? The chances that it’s just an excuse and not a real objection increase in my mind every time I see how excited she looks at me. So it doesn’t matter! Because it’s clear she wants to play. And that’s exactly what I’m going to do.
“I didn’t hear you, what did you say?” I pretend not to hear, evading the matter; throwing myself into the nets of mischief.
We stared at each other for a moment, the clear expression that her excuse meant absolutely nothing to me. I played dumb even more brazenly and went on with my own business. She couldn’t help but laugh.
Second Tip: Have Fun and Stay in the Present
The most important thing is to have fun and enjoy the present moment. The mind forges its fears and insecurities in the past and future.
Avoid expectations and thinking about outcomes. If all you seek is to have fun in that moment and you focus all your attention on it, you free yourself from pressure and your creativity will increase.
You can even use the technique of denied desires to heighten the anticipation and unpredictability of the moment.
Let’s continue with the example:
“I told you I’m a lesbian, you deaf people!” she spits at me again after another failed attempt to kiss me.
I don’t know how many there are now!
“I still can’t hear anything,” I laugh. “But I think you’re right. It’s best if we forget about kissing tonight. From now on, it’s forbidden. We’re going to behave and only dance like two good Samaritans. Give me your hand, sister!”
Third Tip: Persist When It’s Going Well – Retreat When It’s Not
If things are going well, persevere and keep playing. If things get bad, quit as soon as possible. Getting lucky quickly isn’t always possible, so a little persistence is essential. The key is knowing when to be pushy and when not.
In my experience, if the guy or girl keeps saying no but is also being funny and charming, it’s best to keep playing along. However, if those rejections become pushy, a well-timed retreat is always a victory.
She bursts out laughing and accepts my raised hand to ask her to dance for another round. Our dance is filled with daring swaying and unpredictable whispers. And of course, I play the same card again to add another rejection to my already extensive notebook.
“You told me we were forbidden from kissing,” he says as I rest my right leg between his, applying slight pressure to his genitals.
We’re both incredibly aroused, but she keeps rejecting the kiss. I wonder if it’s true that she doesn’t like men… That doubt quickly vanishes from my mind as I feel her trembling, a slave to desire.
Fourth Tip: Play Without Taking Things Too Seriously
To flirt, you have to play around without taking things too seriously. The contexts of seduction operate through double meanings that defy reason. To win over a man or a woman, we need to become like children again.
To seduce by being unpredictable and playful, with innocent lies and cheeky gestures here and there. One minute I’m going to kiss you, and the next I’m telling you I don’t want anything to do with you. The idea isn’t to be dishonest, but to have fun with seductive social games.
“I never tried to kiss him. It’s your cheeks and that smile you keep putting on my face that made me want to kiss you on the cheek. Kissing on the lips is still forbidden,” I blurt out, stroking the back of his neck with my hands.
Unable to contain the tension any longer, she impulsively bites my lips. She bites them once, looks at me, and then, finally, the kisses come pouring down.
“I think you owe me one! You broke our no-kissing rule, and now you’ll have to earn my forgiveness. You lied to me, why are you lying? Don’t you know it’s a sin?”
“You’re the one who hasn’t stopped provoking me for a single moment. Don’t come at me with that nonsense now!”
“Watch that tone, or I’m going to have to bite you, and it’s going to hurt.” And sure enough, I bite her lower lip firmly. She grunts. “You still owe me one. But I’ll get my revenge. For now, I want to enjoy this more. Enjoy all the forbidden things more,” I whisper as I caress her from her shoulders down to the bottom of her ass, where I stop. I squeeze, I feel. I feel the energy coursing through us.
A void, redolent of sex, binds us together. It binds us and bids us farewell to all our clarity, like on a sudden trip. Heading to Las Vegas.
But without casinos, we put up the chips.
How to Flirt by Having Seductive Conversations
It’s widely known that the gift of gab is the best art one can develop for attracting women. Words have the power to convey feelings, attitudes, and emotions, captivating us and drawing us into the magic of the moment.
That’s why, throughout the history of the fine art of seduction, poets, philosophers, and humorists have been the undisputed masters of flirting.
Let’s look at another example, also taken from the more than 100 included in my book, Awaken Beauty.
Example Conversation
“Law is a terrifying degree. I’d rather jump off a bell tower than study it. Though not before taking the innocent life of some pigeon with me.”
I tell her after she tells me how hard it was for her to win her last case and all the hours she had to spend preparing for it.
“It’s not that big of a deal, you just need a little bit of ambition and a little bit of love for the battle.”
“Well, tell me how to acquire those qualities, because you’ve got me more confused than an alien isolated from society.”
Fifth Tip: Contrast Different Ways of Speaking
Humans are addicted to varied and novel stimuli. Having a serious sexual conversation is exciting, but if it drags on, it loses its effect.
However, if it’s combined with a few jokes here and there and moments of romance and affection where we share common interests, it becomes absolutely explosive.
“Are you sure you want me to tell you? Wouldn’t you rather find out for yourself?”
“I don’t think you could handle my methods for extracting information from you,” I snorted sexually. “You’re too innocent, and your tough-lawyer tricks won’t work on me.”
“Yes, as innocent as a puppy!” she laughs mischievously. “I know how to play the good girl so you’ll give me everything I want, haven’t you noticed that yet?”
“And haven’t you realized yet how tempting that is to me? There’s nothing more sensual than your fake innocent face.”
Start Cultivating Your Ingenuity
I remember once talking to a friend who had just graduated with a degree in psychology, and he told me that you couldn’t learn how to pick up women.
To which I replied: Can you learn to cultivate wit and be funnier? Comedians do it, don’t they? Some aren’t very funny at first, but over time they improve and create better stand-up routines.
His answer to that question was a clear and resounding yes, you’re right. To which I continued: so, if it’s possible to be funnier, and humor, according to studies, is the best way to attract and be liked by others, isn’t it obvious that we can have better luck with dates? Simply by improving our sense of humor…
You can probably guess her face and her answer… But I won’t dwell on the obvious; I’ll just say that I used to be completely unfunny. I was a shy, boring kid. However, over time I’ve made countless girls laugh and gotten a lot of attention because of it.
In my book Awaken Beauty you will find no less than 33 pages dedicated to everything we can do to improve our sense of humor with a multitude of styles focused on seducing, throwing jokes here and there.
Generate Emotions That Seduce
All human beings respond to the same emotional needs. Whether we want to flirt with a guy or a girl, the positive emotions we want to evoke are the same.
Often in my travels through this world, I’ve seen people overly concerned with strategy. That is, with all those details about what to do or what not to do: “Should I invite them for a drink, or might I seem desperate?” But questions like that aren’t so important…
What is absolutely vital, almost as essential as breathing, is that the other person feels valued, respected, supported, excited, intrigued, and ultimately, captivated when they are talking to us. If we know how to create that magic, everything we do will be imbued with it.
I’ve been explaining a model for this on this website for some time now. It’s the same model I’ve used in my courses and books. Let’s take a look!
1. Trivial Conversation
We need to be able to talk emotionally about interesting topics. The more you know about diverse subjects, the easier it will be to win over a woman or man you like. While small talk may not fulfill any need beyond entertainment and communication, it serves as a foundation for seduction as we apply the other components of this model.
Let’s look at an example that will be expanded upon in the following points:
“What do you do in this complex world full of contrasts?”
“Well, I’m an architect, so yes! I like complex things and contrasting them well,” he replies with a broad smile. He initially laughs at my flamboyant way of asking.
2. Qualification
Through praise, we highlight the other person’s attractive traits. Incidentally, we also talk about ourselves, emphasizing our own strengths. This fulfills our need to feel appreciated and valued.
Continuing with the previous example:
“I don’t know why I had a feeling you had a creative and complex profession. You seem like an observant person, one of those who misses absolutely nothing.”
“You’re not far off the mark. In fact, I haven’t missed a thing about your long, beautiful dark hair. I’m sure you’ve been hired to do shampoo commercials before,” he says humorously as she begins to blush.
More on: How to compliment to seduce and make someone fall in love.
3. Emotional Connection
To win over a man or a woman, we must learn to communicate emotionally to meet their needs for understanding, acceptance, and support, providing reasons for the interaction that justify the connection.
Most often, we connect through shared things, such as thoughts, experiences, and opinions. However, it’s also important to fantasize together about our desires and future goals to create a deep connection between lovers. Let’s see how:
“No, Pantene (a well-known shampoo brand in Spain) hasn’t called me yet. But since you mention it, I’ll tell you that besides being a little crazy, I own a hair salon.”
“And an entrepreneur too, I’m so jealous! I dream of starting my own business someday. For now, I’m happy working for a company, but I’d love to start my own and develop my own projects.”
“At first, it was really hard for me to take the plunge, but it’s just a matter of getting motivated and being brave. In the end, if you’re positive and focus on giving it your all to achieve what you want, it’s less likely that it won’t happen.”
“I completely agree, I love the passion with which you tell me this. In fact, courage is also one of the most important values in my life.”
4. Sexualization
Finally, we need to know how to generate sexual tension. This makes all the difference between hooking up or not, by fulfilling our natural needs for sex and play.
This is also the most effective way to seduce someone quickly, especially if we want to meet someone in nightclubs.
“Oh, really? And are you brave enough to dance with me?” she asks, looking him in the eyes with a wicked expression.
“It depends… do you promise you won’t bite me?”
“I can’t guarantee it…” she replies with a funny smile.
“Then yes! If there’s one thing I fear, it’s boredom. But with your lips between us, something tells me I can rest easy,” he whispers with a clearly suggestive gesture just before extending his hand to take hers and begin the promised dance.
The Best Social Skills for Falling in Love
Within the previous model, we’ve omitted one variable. In fact, we’ve omitted the most important one if we want to captivate anyone: observation.
To win others over, we must be attentive and detect their interests and desires, as well as the objections that may hinder our conquest.
Always keep in mind that information is power, and the more you have, the easier it will be to attract someone. That’s why having some knowledge about how human behavior works is so important for winning someone’s heart.
I can’t elaborate on this in this article, but you’ll find no less than 80 pages dedicated to it in the second part of Awaken Beauty, titled “Develop Your Insight.”
Win Hearts with Empathy and Assertiveness
Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes to connect with their essence and understand them without negative judgment, and you’ll be using empathy to seduce them. One of the most powerful and essential tools of seduction.
“I have to warn you that I recently broke up with my girlfriend and right now I’m not interested in meeting anyone,” she tells me.
I have a feeling this guy likes me. As much as I like him. That reddish hair and those freckles that adorn his face drive me crazy. If you add to that how emotional and romantic he seems, I’m signing up for the mental hospital right now. I’m sure we’d find a less planned world there.
“I completely understand. It’s happened to me too. But let me tell you something. I’m not talking to you to see if we can have a fling or become boyfriend and girlfriend, or even hook up,” I say empathetically, a serene expression on my face and a healthy dose of sincerity. “I’m doing this because I want to. Because I’m enjoying this moment talking to you, and I hope you are too.”
Sixth Tip: Make the Other Person Feel Understood and Encourage Them to Let Go
We all have our fears and insecurities. When we want to win someone’s heart, we’ll inevitably encounter the ghosts of their past experiences. To dissolve these fears and win the other person’s heart, we have to show them that we understand those fears and have even experienced them ourselves. Once we’ve done this, we can then encourage them to leave those fears behind, motivating them to live a unique and wonderful experience in the here and now—the only thing that truly matters.
“Yes, yes! To be honest, talking to you is really cheering me up. But, like I said, I wanted to be sincere.”
“And I really appreciate that you were there. But what if we keep enjoying the moment without letting the past spoil it? What if we just talk for the sake of it, without worrying about what might be?” I suggest as a subtle silence falls between us, lost in thought. “Honestly, even if nothing happens between us, I’ll never regret being here with your smiles,” I add with a touch of humor.
We both laughed and took the opportunity to relax.
The tensions that walled us in dissipate.
“You’re right. Sometimes I worry too much when what really matters is this moment and how we live it,” she argues, smiling again with a tenderness that makes me want her so much.
“See, that’s the smile I don’t want you to take away from me. Deal?” I say mockingly, offering her my hand.
“Deal!”
Seventh Tip: Downplay the Problems and Offer a New Experience
A common mistake when trying to charm someone is dwelling too much on internal issues that need to be accepted, resolved, and then moved on.
Some in the previous example might have fallen into the trap of talking for hours about how badly their previous relationship went. However, the most important thing when it comes to flirting is offering a stimulating experience that makes us forget everything else, leaving aside any past frustrations that might create negative feelings.
The more captivating our conversation is, the less attention they’ll pay to any reason that might lead them to reject us.
Emotional Communication Is Essential
Practice assertive communication and avoid telling the person you like what they should or shouldn’t do. Instead, tell them what you prefer to do. To win someone over, it’s more persuasive and attractive to talk about yourself and your experiences than to offer advice.
Let’s look at the difference with and without emotional communication:
- Without emotional communication: “You should let yourself go because if you close yourself off to new experiences, it’s very difficult to be happy and fall in love again. If you dwell on the past and all the bad things that could happen, you’ll make your life miserable.”
- With emotional communication: “I decided a while ago to let go and focus on appreciating all the beauty that life gives me. That way, even if things don’t always go as I’d like, I never have to regret anything, because I’ll always have enjoyed this moment to the fullest. And since then, I’ve realized that I’m much happier. Besides, this way I believe that the day I finally fall in love, I can be sure that that love will be genuine.”
Look closely! Without communicating emotionally, it seems we’re trying to convince the other person to do something we want. In the second approach, we’re simply talking about our way of life.
This will very likely encourage the other person to either follow those same patterns or reflect on their own beliefs. Do you see the difference?
Seduce with Your Non-Verbal Language
Tone of Voice and Posture
One exercise I always do with the students in my courses is reading poetry aloud. I always assign this as homework because the voice is the conduit of our message.
We have to pay attention to how, in any television series, the actors use precise emphasis when they speak. They put a different intonation on each word. Sometimes it’s barely perceptible, but they do it. Just like journalists, comedians, or singers usually do. Otherwise, they would bore us.
Add Depth, Precision, and Tranquility to Your Messages
Among those who are less successful with women, I’ve always found the same pattern: monotonous, high-pitched, or lifeless voices. Their arm movements are either too stiff or the complete opposite. They seem to drag themselves along like rags, like a soldier beaten down after losing 10,000 battles.
My advice is to visualize yourself from an outside perspective and project a way of moving that you like. Look at movie actors and try to walk upright, projecting confidence. And if that doesn’t work, do what I did: work deeply on improving your self-esteem. This way, you’ll gain the necessary security and confidence so that your nonverbal communication automatically becomes more attractive, while also gaining inner appeal.
Adapt Your Language to What You Say
Did you know that John F. Kennedy, the famous US president who had an affair with Marilyn Monroe, trained in Hollywood before running for office? Yes, you read that right! He learned from renowned actors how to make his expressions more appealing.
We need to be aware that what we express must have a certain form. We’re not talking about techniques or methods for flirting that may or may not work. We’re talking about how we use our language skills.
This takes practice, but it’s worth it. You won’t get dates by using tricks, but by developing and shaping your personality to suit your taste.
Keep in mind that if your goal is to win the heart of a man or woman you like, pickup lines won’t help. Sooner or later, jokes and rehearsed lines will wear thin. There’s no other option but to grow and develop an attractive personality with attitudes that increase your magnetism.
Let’s look at some examples in different contexts, taking into account the previous model.
Flirting with Humor
Humor often uses fast-paced, sometimes even slurred, language, employing exaggeration, irony, and extreme increases in tone of voice. It can be very useful for handling rejection with your wit.
Let’s look at an example in a dating context from my book Awaken Beauty:
“Hi how are things?”
“Get out of here, you idiot!”
“I never would have thought you knew me so well. The truth is, I started acting like an idiot back in 1990,” I explain expressively as his face begins to show a bewildered look. “Yes, when the developed countries were affected by the economic and financial crisis. The one caused by the bursting of the real estate bubble in Japan, you know!” I add with the composure of a mischievous comedian.
The tortilla explodes into a thousand pieces, filling everything with humor. What was awkward becomes bouncy blue gnomes. Now I’m a Smurf, and she’s my Smurfette. Her face says: Don’t go, please stay.
“Where did you come from?” she asks between lovely laughs.
“Let’s not talk about my past yet. First the names, I like to know who I’m talking to…” he continued, his tone becoming more serious, as if displaying a touch of amused indignation.
Flirting by Generating Sexual Tension or Connecting Emotionally
If we’re talking about sex or hinting at sexual topics, both our voice and our gestures should slow down. We might feel a little nervous, which could lead to shy gestures that add a touch of flirtation. And that’s a good thing! Because it means we mean what we’re saying.
Shyness and nervous gestures in romantic situations shouldn’t be hidden. Many guys are afraid of them and try to act like James Bond. But that’s a mistake, because overconfidence raises suspicions.
It conveys that we don’t feel what we’re doing and makes the other person doubt us. They doubt us because many who behave this way do so to hide a lot of insecurities, making them seem very unnatural.
Instead, aim for a balance between security, confidence, and shyness that allows you to go with the flow without overthinking things. The important thing is to have a playful and seductive charm to show that we’re both natural and mischievous: they won’t get bored with us.
Sexualizing Is Not About Saying Dirty Things
Once, during a course, I posed a challenge to the students. I told them I would talk about a soccer play by Leo Messi, and that while I did so, I would convey sexual language. One of them replied with the following joke: “Damn, dude, I really want to kiss you on the mouth.”
The trick was this. While talking about how Leo Messi played football, I used emotional communication and poetic language, along with a tone of voice that rose and fell with varying intensity depending on my speech. I would sometimes pause to look each person in the eye for a very brief moment.
What I wanted my students to understand is that they didn’t need to use dirty talk or have conversations about sex to convey sexual tension (although that’s also possible). We simply need to communicate with emotion and a deeper, more deliberate nonverbal language, using subtle innuendo and double entendres.
Furthermore, it’s important to consider that when we’re attracted to a man or woman, that attraction itself can encourage a contagious sexual energy. This leads us to focus our gaze more intently and deeply on areas of sexual interest: eyes, lips, breasts, arms, hands, etc.
An Example of Sexualization and Emotional Connection
“There’s a heaven in your eyes that I want to discover. Do you always convey so much sweetness, or is it just me being particularly poetic this afternoon?” he asks with a boldness that makes me blush.
I feel that we are about to share a moment of complicity that could be decisive in discovering who we are.
“Well, maybe that heaven exists in my eyes. I’m having a great time. Besides, I’m one of those who believe that if heaven exists, it’s not so much in the afterlife as it is here and now. In the moments we live.”
I feel that he hears me and that my words rush through his mind. I look at him and widen my eyes even more in an amused gesture.
“Hmm, that’s interesting. I partly believe the same. I’ve always thought that we, as people, are the ones who make our lives either a paradise or the worst kind of torment.”
“For me, hell is the negative emotions we sometimes find ourselves immersed in. Anger, grudges, envy, hatred, resentment… Isn’t living with gratitude, love, and joy already living in heaven?”
“If you keep putting that smile and enthusiasm into what you say, believe me, I’ll sign it, right now! Right here on a napkin, just like in the first contract they made for Leo Messi.”
We both laughed, and I felt great being able to talk about deep topics with such ease and joviality. This guy has the ability to make any conversation fun and stimulating.
“It’s exactly the same thing that’s happening between us. Here, laughing, we’re in heaven,” she whispers, never taking her eyes off me. “However, if we were arguing and throwing ashtrays at each other, we’d be plunging headlong into our own personal hells.”
After his last comment we started laughing, which made me feel more relaxed and excited at the same time.
“Besides, we’d probably bump ourselves because, well, these glass ashtrays don’t seem very advisable to fight with.”
Show Affection and Closeness
Both men and women are easily won over by small gestures. A warm, sensual kiss on the forehead, gently smoothing their hair, opening a door for them, and so on. We need to feel deep in our hearts that we appreciate that other person.
In my personal experience, it’s something that’s always been second nature to me. I like to be attentive so that the woman feels my affection at all times, although always in the appropriate situations.
I often come across as mischievous, playful, and sensual, sometimes even a bit carefree, as a form of play. But at the same time, I’m there when needed. I combine these qualities with moments where we open up deeply to each other, and I shower the woman with love and affection.
I genuinely care about them and want them to feel good. I try to bring out their inner beauty when they’re with me—to bring out the best in them! That way, when I’m being a bit of a rascal, they truly see it for what it is: an exciting part of my personality without associating it with me being some typical carefree, indifferent slacker. It’s a very appealing contrast.
And when rejections come, manage them by knowing what to say and what to do when you are rejected.
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The more you have to offer, the more you’ll get lucky.
I’ve mentioned before that I started reading books about seduction when I was thirteen. But the funny thing is, those books weren’t the ones that helped me the most with dating. They were often repetitive and ended up making me insecure, undoubtedly because they made me overthink everything I should or shouldn’t do.
So I started reading about other subjects: psychology, emotional intelligence, spirituality, philosophy, poetry, erotic novels, etc. And then yes, with all that knowledge the difference was enormous.
Think about it, isn’t it obvious that we miss someone more the more they bring to our lives and the better they make us feel? Isn’t that what falling in love is all about?
In my opinion, to make someone fall in love, it’s essential that the other person feels they are growing and experiencing unique moments with us. If we don’t provide that, any flirting technique is useless.
Emotional Intelligence
When I started learning about emotional intelligence, I never imagined the immense power it would have over women. This knowledge helped me better understand how my own emotions worked, and how I understood the emotions of the women I wanted to win over. Simply put, I was helping them with what I learned about that chaotic emotional world we all carry within us.
It’s an incredible feeling to support someone you’re attracted to, even though you barely know them. Having the knowledge to do so definitely started to give me a lot of points when it comes to flirting.
I realized that I started to charm many girls without even trying, simply by supporting and motivating them, just as I used to do with my clients when I worked as a coach. Without giving advice. Simply offering my opinion in a positive way. Also, by intuiting how they think and what their emotional reactions will be.
You can see an example from my book about this on my Instagram. The key to this example (a real one, of course) is that I realized this woman could have been criticized many times for her freedom.
Especially by her parents with the typical speeches like: “Stop running around working whatever jobs you can find, get a boyfriend, and settle down.” So what I did was value precisely what made her unique and what I truly loved about her: her yearning for freedom. Something that, without my knowledge of emotional intelligence, I probably would have overlooked.
Philosophy and Poetry
I first started reading Eastern philosophy. This helped me a lot to become more aware of how everything around me worked. It allowed me to cultivate my own vision and opinion on different aspects of life, which gave depth to all my messages, imbuing them with mysticism.
I will always remember how once two women, visibly fascinated, told me the following phrase after I spoke to them about what I thought of some things: “God, you are super intelligent.”
Intelligent? That’s called being cultured…
If you don’t believe me, I invite you to take a look at some of my erotic stories, like this one based on a real experience: Let Madness Take Over. In it, you can appreciate how powerful philosophy and poetry are for seduction, providing you with a multitude of resources to arouse and communicate in a more impactful way.
When the mystery is too overwhelming, it is impossible to disobey.
— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
On the other hand, it’s proven that poetry fosters our creativity, both in speaking and in interpreting the world around us. You can take a look at some of my poems. I hope you’ll be inspired to read a little poetry now and then. It will work wonders on your expressions, I assure you!
Flirting via Chat
Flirting via chat through social networks like WhatsApp or Tinder has become almost essential. This is especially true for WhatsApp, as it’s the preferred means of communication for getting to know each other between dates, and particularly for asking someone out.
Winning someone over through chat is very similar to doing it in person. Everything we’ve mentioned in this guide works exactly the same way, except for nonverbal communication and physical contact, obviously. But when it comes to communicating seductively, it’s the same. We use the same approach.
However, if you want to delve into the details and differences, and find examples and phrases, I refer you to my free guide: How to Flirt on WhatsApp with Conversation. You’ll also find more extensive information in my Amazon bestseller: Flirting on WhatsApp.
Yes, I know. I’ve linked to many articles throughout this guide. That’s why I recommend saving it to your browser’s favorites and returning to it whenever you want to click and read its various links.
How Long Does It Take Me to Learn How to Flirt?
Throughout this guide to flirting, we’ve covered many topics. So many, in fact, that you might feel a little overwhelmed or confused. You may have come here looking for some seduction techniques or tips, and yet, I’ve told you to start learning and practicing a multitude of things.
However, my personal experience with many of my students has shown me that you can achieve amazing results in just a couple of months.
All it takes is consistency and dedicating an hour or two each day to different habits, such as reading the recommended books or meditating to enjoy the benefits of meditation for social skills.
And if you don’t yet know how to meditate, don’t worry. You can download my guided meditations in MP3 format for free, several of which are focused on improving your seduction skills.
On the other hand, it’s vital to be willing to go out and talk to men or women you might be able to flirt with. It’s also helpful to do this through social media like WhatsApp or Tinder, where you can see what you’re writing and learn to play with language.
Do You Want Tricks and Techniques, or Do You Want to Learn How to Seduce?
Think about it, is it really worth learning a few tricks that won’t help you win anyone’s heart in the long run? Isn’t it better to spend a few months developing all those skills that will allow you to attract and win over the person you truly want based on who you really are?
I’m certain of this: if you don’t already have good natural seduction skills, the first method will only get you a clumsy, if somewhat lucky, chance at hooking up.
The second method, as happened to me, will lead you to discover a whole new world of relationships and a deeper appreciation for life. This could result in many sexual experiences if that’s what you’re looking for, or in finding a worthwhile girlfriend or boyfriend, like I did.
On the other hand, it’s important to remember that all the knowledge mentioned can greatly benefit you in other areas of your life. For example, you’ll be more successful in the workplace by managing your emotions better, you’ll be able to seduce your partner and keep them falling in love with you over time, and much more.
The decision is yours…
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